Is Patience A Skill ???

Of Course it is... 

You can learn to be more patient.

What about Good Judgment & Maturity?

Yes, also Skills!

Patience is a virtue you can work on, but as such it is not a skill that can be learned. You can learn to hide your impatience. You can learn what triggers your impatience and manage your emotions. You can learn to measure your reactions. Inside though, you still have that simmering flame of impatience burning. If your stress levels are high, this burning flame might turn into a blaze. So it’s important to know your triggers.Thus a good start for controlling your response is to reflect on why something resonates strongly with you. 

Learn from your environment and ask lots of open-ended questions: Replace your judgment with curiosity. Find out what motivates people whose behavior triggers you to struggle with patience. Find out about their background, their interests and goals. You can learn so much by engaging in active listening and questions. Collect stories and you will see how people open up and you start forming new alliances. If you approach people with an open mind and listen, you will find something interesting and get a glimpse of different world views that can make yours bigger and more beautiful.

In order to successfully build your tolerance levels and display of patience you need to probably use a combination of the above strategies. You need to revisit your behavior quite a few times and just keep at it. Some things come easier than others. If you expect difficulties in certain situations you usually cope better, it will be the little things that trip you up, when you don’t expect trouble and are not prepared.

For success in building your patience it’s vital not to just change behavior but develop new supporting habits that stick. Keep noticing when something triggers you, change your state when it does and know your values and what makes you tick. And don’t beat yourself up when you slip: the flame is still burning, remember?!